Kindness over the Country Clubs

Hey  >.< It’s me- again. How we doin? Hangin in there? I hope the answer was yes. Life isn’t all bad.  Lana Del Rey has us on the edge of our seats for her new single and the title track to her album ” Chemtrails over the Country Club.” We have no clue what it’s gonna be like, but I mean here is what she has given us… *insert video link*

And then Harry Styles has graciously released a video for us. Teaching us all to spread the kindness. *click* *click* *insert video link*

That’s what I want to lead this blog with, to give you two reasons to possibly become happier, and to segue into my topic. 

Kindness. 

Now, I have been watching some ted talks. I know. That’s not what most Gen Z teens admit on the blogosphere .-.     BUT I have no shame about it . Really, I don’t. 

I will admit, at first I was assigned to listen to one by my teach but then I just got sucked down this loophole of them. Even though it was my day off, gurlll, I was living while watching these !!

They were so beneficial to my well-being and I feel like they came at just the moment I needed them to.  The universe was there and watching. It decided to throw me a bone I guess. 

There were a few points from some of the discussions that I wanted to share/add to this blog to try and improve or help in you maintaining a positive metal state.

1. When you’re doing something new or something you know , don’t measure your success by how few mistakes you make. 

Just try and, as difficult as it may sound (because it is), not have self awareness. Just focus on the task, and what you WANT to accomplish. No one is really gonna judge you for not being “the best.” 

(If there even is such a thing because most things are suggestively measured) 

The ted talk I saw was explaining it with languages. She needed help in a foreign country picking a certain type of vitamin. Well one lady told her every single little detail about the two vitamins in question and she was still stuck as a stick in the mud on which to choose. So, she asks another lady. This lady barely knew ANY English. Just asked the most basic questions that got straight to the point, and it worked. The foreigner didn’t need all the theatrics and fancies. It just wasn’t necessary. 

The point is, the gurl who wasn’t even that knowledgeable in the language got the point across, and the gurl who was stressed to the max and trying way too hard to flex didn’t even help.

Please don’t stop reading now because I didn’t explain it well. I can link that video too before I move on to the second point. I will say that it doesn’t explicitly talk about life skills, but more about the mindset in learning a language. BUT honestly it could be applied to any life skills…

2. Try and have a positive mindset.

One of the other ted talks I watched, that my teach actually recommended, talked about this right here.

Listen to how these two statements someone could say to themselves sound.

“God, I’m so stupid for messing that up!”

And

“Huh, well next time I’ll know what not to do.”

Obviously there is  whole different vibe with the statements. The first is degrading, and may even be just sad to hear. The other is optimistic and hopeful, and this is what I want to get across. The ted talk talked about how one needs to replace every single negative thought with a more optimistic thought and this helps you become more aware of your thought process from day to day. 

Again the video explained it in more detail if you’d like to check it out…

 

If you’d like to check out more of this group’s Ted talks feel free. This isn’t a sponsorship by any means , but their videos are not too long and totally tubular. So like, why not?

Overall, kindness could be used more. Don’t you agree? I hope this was beneficial to you in any sort of way    “.”

Now for a little pop moment for some motivation. Make sure you have on the subtitles, so you can understand all the lyrics and fully embrace the moment. Sooo…

Be wild, be free, and be happy  ♥