Something that I have noticed both online and in real life through many years is an inability to allow people to change. I am uncertain where exactly it stems from, but I believe this phenomena to be influenced by the animosity of the internet. Though that can only be accurately applied to the harshness of online interactions.
Offline, many people will hold onto problems or issues that have otherwise been resolved in an attempt to hold onto some amount of social power it has given them. Though it will often lead to a moral deterioration of the “Stagnant” that will often cause others to, once they have been given an opportunity to interact outside of their current ecosystem, realize the toxicity of this person and move forward.
It is not necessarily a negative thing, and has much to do with adolescent growth. Drama and gossip is extremely common, especially in High School, though it will often stop once a certain level of maturity has been met. However, it is not impossible for someone to become so reliant on drama for their social power that they become incapable of maturing correctly. This can be caused by other unseen mental issues, though overall it is due to a stubbornness that is often looked down upon later in life.
It is my belief that these people should not be looked at with contempt, but perhaps to some extent with pity, as there are many possible childhood related causes that would lead to this behavior. If, for example, a person had a parental figure who had this issue, it would increase the likelihood of they themselves developing this same issue.
My personal suggestion to those who want to help these people, or are one of these people and want to help themselves, is to move on. Forgive, but don’t forget. Always allow for change and growth, but be equally as ready to condemn them for their actions. This will generally lead to a healthier social environment and will improve the moods of those within it.
I fully intend to put more research into this topic, and into psychology as a whole, and will be updating with a follow-up once I have learned what I deem an acceptable amount to continue speaking on this topic. I thank you for your time, and hope you do well.
