So we had to write a “I believe” lil blurb about something we believe in. We are now (by the time this is posted I’ll be finished) turning into a play. This whole thing was kind of based on my grandparent’s and their love, because it honestly was something I look up to a lot. It showed me that love doesn’t have to be this cliche thing and love doesn’t have to be romantically or even for people at all. And that’s what the play is about. Anyways, here is this statement. Here’s my TedTalk :))))))))
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I believe that physical closeness does not define love. People madly in love can simply co-exist. Being attached at the hip, does not equal deepness of said relationships. Stable relationships can be rooted in mutual understanding, maturity, shared beliefs and passions, etc. A couple can sleep in separate beds and lead separate lives, and still come together at the end of the day and love each other. This is not to say though, that relationships should be without affection. It can be as small as a kiss on the head before bed. I also believe that to show love, one doesn’t need grand gestures. It can range from watching their favorite television shows to remembering how they like a certain food prepared. “I love you” is not a word; it’s an action. Love shifting from something new and exciting to domestic life doesn’t mean it’s weathered either. Growing older just means you have to shift the focus on love and how it is expressed. There is a fine line between a love-less marriage, and a matured one. It takes a self-aware couple to realize this. Marriages fail because of many different reasons. The two participants need to know the difference between love and infatuation. To love someone, you don’t always have to like them. You stick with them through thick and thin because you care for them, and you want it to work. It’s a team effort. Infatuation is quick and short lived. Some people spend their whole lifetimes trying to discern the difference between the two. Some spend their entire marriage not knowing. Sometimes it’s not that clear. To love someone truly, you try your hardest to make it work. Through anything and everything. If you give up, you don’t truly love them. If it fails despite all your efforts, you still love them. Sometimes it’s the right person wrong time. Sometimes it’s the right time wrong person. Sometimes it’s the wrong time wrong person. But each person is a lesson. Lesson of self-worth. A teaching moment of how to treat others. Maybe even just for fun. For comfort. Love doesn’t even have to be for a person. It can be for a place, a thing, an animal, anything. You can be heartbroken from things other than people. Your favorite restaurant gets shut down; they no longer make your favorite night time snack; you had to put your dog down. Those are all heartbreaking things. Love can be with a person but doesn’t have to. It’s amazing to get to spend your life with a companion, but it can still be filled with love and fulfillment in the absence of that. Love is something that should be cherished. I believe that love is everywhere, and that is defined and not defined by a myriad of different things. Love is ever changing and ever personalized to each individual person and experience.
