A Little Bit More

Well if you thought you knew enough about me before, congratulations you get more information.  Honestly, the most interesting thing about me is I’m quite literally in pain all the time. My headache specialist doctor says my diagnosis is somewhere between a migraine and new daily headache since traditional medication has not been able to do much for me; I am currently going through EMDR therapy.  The pain is sometimes so intense…

One of the worst parts is most people don’t believe my condition, stating “it isn’t possible”.  Just because something is rare, doesn’t make it unable to happen, may I remind you some people are allergic to water and the sun?  Speaking of allergies, I have foods that trigger worse head pain or other symptoms like severe nausea.  The main triggers I have figured out are red dye 40 (Red 40) and MSG.  Unfortunately, for me, these are very common in America, the dye is found in almost every candy or drinks with color, along with some chocolate stuff for absolutely no reason, chocolate is already brown, people!

I guess something I’m also all too familiar with is betrayal.  Nothing hurts worse when you pour your heart and soul into someone and then they stab you in the back.  I know what you’re thinking “How could someone so young know betrayal like the back of her hand?”  The truth is the lottery of life hasn’t been too kind to me.  I know far too well a lot of people really don’t care about you, they just want something out of you.  Now while that can be as innocent as to pass the time, it can very well be something much more personal.  I guess that is why I was so hesitant to get too close to people for a while, however that can end up hurting you just as bad when they go and do things without you.

I sit here writing this in a dark room with my head aching from looking at a bright computer screen for so many hours on end, online learning really is not good for me.  I hope to go back to normal learning as soon as possible.

 

Describing Colors to Someone Who Cannot See Them

“How would you describe color to a blind person?”

   I, like most people, used to be baffled by this question. Whenever somebody would pose it, I would find myself stuck; how could you possibly describe something visual to someone who cannot perceive visual things? Recently, there’s been a revival of a classic debate: what colors are the core school subjects? People online are expressing very strong feelings about this, arguing passionately about why the colors they associate with English, math, history, and science are the most accurate representation of the subjects. This really inspired me to explore my own perception of color and the kind of people, actions, concepts, and feelings I associate certain colors with, so today, I’m going to try to articulate these thoughts to you.

   Red – Red is often perceived as being flashy, expensive, and powerful, but more than anything else, it is bold. It reminds you of the girl in your politics class; she usually does not speak unless spoken to, but she never hesitates when defending her beliefs. Despite its ability to blend in, red will never fail to catch your eye and captivate you. Red is the way you feel when you’re wearing heels and walking across an echoing concrete floor. Red is the climax of your favorite story; the intense final battle, the emotional profession of love, the narrow escape from death. Red is the stinging feeling in your throat when you begin to raise your voice during an argument where you allowed your confidence devolve into arrogance. It is the twist in your gut you feel when someone you’re competing against gains the upper-hand by outsmarting you. Red is your head spinning while you are both holding and being held by someone you love. It is the feeling of blood rushing to your face after you trip over your own feet while walking to class. Red is English, structured and consistent but never too exact or restrictive. It has standards that must be met, but your creativity is never unfairly restricted.

   Orange – Orange is loud, like the obnoxious girl at lunch whose excessive storytelling you cannot help but enjoying, because well, this one time… You will always recognize this color when it is in the room, but it is not always pleasing to the eyes. It feels like the carpeted floor of your parents’ vehicle; specifically, it feels the way it does when you hop into the front seat after a long day of school. Orange is the falling action of a story where the main character does not necessarily succeed in the way they wanted to, but they do realize something important about themselves or the situation they’re involved in. Orange is the feeling of taking off a pair of glasses that are a little too tight for your face. It is the ache of your muscles after an intense work out. It is the sensation that travels through your body when you smell the scent of your favorite candle for the first time in a while. It is the feeling in your stomach when you start to realize you’re talking too much. It is the warmth that floods your body when you read a poem you really connect with. Orange is Spanish, complex and even tiring at times but ultimately rewarding. It is a subject where the new material builds from things you’ve already learned, so things need time to develop in order for you get back what you have been putting in.

   Yellow – Yellow is soft-spoken but still expressive. It is the person who sits near your friend group during lunch who you have to strain to hear, so you focus on the way they talk with their hands when they tell you about their day. You only see yellow when you’re looking for it, even if it is subconsciously, but when you do, it makes you feel bright. Yellow might feel like the satisfying ending to a story you truly enjoyed, but more often, it does not feel like part of the story at all—yellow feels like the characters you grew to love while reading it. Yellow feels like the soft, cotton blanket that covers overgrown grass you and your best friend are sitting on while you are having a picnic. Yellow is your heart swelling in your chest when your favorite person laughs at the joke you tell them. It is the smile that forms on your face when you get a notification saying your comfort streamer is going live. Yellow is the excitement you experience when you find a piece of clothing at a thrift store that you immediately fall in love with. It is that glowing feeling of acceptance when your pet comes into your room without being prompted or called to do so. Yellow is health, mostly because it encourages you to take care of yourself and partially because that was the color of the textbook provided to us in eighth grade.

   Green – Green is calm and informal, like the boy who sits near you in art class; he jokes around with his friends during the lesson, but somehow still knows what to do when it is time to do work. He speaks to you sometimes and you usually get nervous, because without your friends, you feel out of place in that class, but he never seems to notice. Green hides in plain sight; you see it everywhere, so most of the time it goes underappreciated. However, when you take a moment to absorb it, you feel almost reassured in a strange way. Green is the beginning, middle, and end of a coming-of-age novel; green is a constant that remains intact throughout the story, rather than something that is introduced or removed at certain points, like a characteristic the narrator never shakes, an article of clothing the archetypal sidekick always wears, or a phrase an authority figure in the protagonist’s life always uses. Many different things come to mind when thinking about what green feels like; an immediate thought is the natural ground—the way the grassy backyard of your grandparents’ house felt under your feet while you ran around barefoot, lost in your own imagination. Green is the feeling of pride and satisfaction you experience when you nurture the houseplants your parents have been neglecting. Green is the queasy feeling in your stomach when you have to give a presentation in your social studies class. Green is the release of endorphins you get while playing your favorite sport in the burning sun. Green is science, overwhelmingly vast and complicated but still consistent and reliable. It can provide an explanation for the seemingly unknown things in life that scare and perplex us.

   Blue – Blue is straight-forward, yet comforting; it is exact, yet delicate. Blue is your friend who excels at everything, even though they are unwilling to admit they are above average in any capacity. They are always just a little better than you at sports and score a few points higher than you on tests, but they never emphasize these small differences to you or to themselves. Everyone likes blue; when you enter a room, it is always somewhere, whether as an article of clothing someone wears, a wall decoration, or even the color of the furniture. Blue is the satisfying rhythm of a lyrical poem you really enjoy, or the point in a story where the protagonist comes to terms with something which they do not have the power to change. Blue feels soft, like the pillows of your bed after a long day at work; it feels like the straps of your backpack when you anxiously tug at them while walking to your least favorite class. Blue is the familiar way your headphones rest on your head and it is also the way your demeanor changes when that song starts to blare from those headphones. It is the goosebumps that rise on your skin when you are sitting in a waiting room, not really recognizing where you are or who you’re seeing, because all you know that you told your parent you throat hurts and they took you here. Blue is math, where problems have one clear, inarguable answer. Although it can be frustrating not now know how to find that answer, you can always find satisfaction in putting forth the effort required to discover it.

   Purple – Purple is demanding and alluring; it reminds you of that one girl you were friends with in elementary school. You know the type: kind of mean and always has to be in charge, but fiercely loyal, almost to a fault. You respect her for those qualities now, but when you were young, you spent much of your time together wondering what would happen if you yanked on that ponytail she always wore. Purple is the introduction of the antagonist of a fantasy novel, who is usually the brooding, misunderstood classmate of the main character. Purple feels like velvet, or whatever material that one shirt you have that makes you feel like a witch is made of. Purple is the suppressed sense of superiority you feel when your work is used as an example in your language arts class, something you would never outwardly express but relish in the feeling of. It is the confidence that floods your mind when someone compliments the new lipstick shade you were trying—you weren’t really sure if it was your shade. Purple is social studies; it might seem repetitive and uninteresting on the surface, but we all have that one era of history we are secretly fascinated by.

Is he enough to satiate my hunger for life?

I look at him

Our eyes meet

I look over him while we are out in public

Still debating

I have loved him for years

He was nineteen when we dated for the first time

I was sixteen

Both under pressure from supposed friends

I had no feeling for him the first year and a half

And 

All of a sudden 

I stopped thinking of my boyfriend as an imaginary guy who didn’t exist

And took notice of the one person who worshipped me like a goddess (literally).

A year and a half later

We’d decided to get closer as friends and wait to mature more

I’d wanted to wait until I’d graduated and because I have ambitions

I didn’t want to be tied down

He respects my wishes 

My sister is my idol

She was reluctant at first but after getting to know him loves him as a brother

Her disapproval was the main reason we broke up

Other than the friends sabotaging our relationship

I love him

I really do

But 

I spent years of my life hating everyone or having no emotions

How am I supposed to love him as deeply as he does me?

We’re both equally as broken

There are days when someone can say hi to us

and we sob for hours

 

emetophobia and word vomit

every writer knows the feeling of being stuck. there’s this overwhelming urge to write something, but i never know what. alternatively, i could have so many things to write about, but no clear way to express it. while both are inconvenient options, nothing beats the blissful experience of producing 8 poems of mediocre quality in a matter of 15 minutes. maybe the stars lined up just right so my motivation and content overlap, but nonetheless, something was created.

oftentimes, i, as a writer, forget that quality and quantity both have their place in my craft. sometimes i just want to get up and write something, even if no one will see it – even if i’ll delete it after 5 minutes because it sounds like a lovesick 13-year-old on A03 wrote it. motivation can be the hardest part, so if you have motivation, but not content, remember that your laptop, notebook, typewriter, or table napkin – are all safe spaces, exclusive to you if you wish them to be. there is a reason you’re being called to write, so let it out.

alas, my venting is over, and i will be facing my fears of releasing previously mentioned word vomit, right here, right now. unanswered, the work below, was written from 2:48am to 2:59am on Monday, September 6, 2020.

sometimes i want to pray for you,
in the middle of the night,
i can feel your crying in my soul,
i can feel you losing a fight.
but i know it’s not my place,
to try to heal your pain,
so sometimes i fall asleep
to the sound of the rain,
and it’s like you’re next to me,
but i know that you’re not,
still, if i can’t be near you,
at least there’s a thought.

so i hope you feel better,
and i hope you feel love,
and i hope that you will be
everything you wanted to become,
i hope your smile gets brighter,
and your shoulders feel lighter,
i hope you know that you’re a lover,
even when you try to be a fighter.
i hope you’ll let me pray for you
on the nights you start hurting,
and i hope you find it,
for whatever it is you’re searching.

Elephants

Once upon a time, there was a frog. And this frog was purple.

Kidding!! The fact that there is a purple frog is irrelevant. I just thought I’d tell you. 

The actual story goes like this:

She hid in the corner, hugging her toy, knees drawn to her chest. Her parents had been fighting for hours, believing her to have already been asleep. She sniffed and pulled her special elephant closer, whispering in its ear, “take me away from here.” Soon her eyes became heavy, weighed down by her hopes and wishes. She began to drift and doze, now fast asleep in the corner.  

A soft breeze, as gentle as a mother, brushed across her face, and she woke up to find, to her astonished surprise, a land unlike any other. And as she lay there, a gray blob began to approach her from a little ways away. But it was just her elephant! Her elephant scooped her up with his trunk and placed her on his back. Then he showed her his world. 

She got to meet tiny elves and flower toads, midget bears and giant boads, even hollow tree slides and great swing vines. Her elephant took her on such grand adventures! Swimming in the Deep Shallows, Climbing the Twisty Trees, and Exploring the Sandy Castles. He even took her to the Great Palace where she met Empress Peacock, who ruled the land perfectly so that all her subjects were happy. The little girl was proud of her elephant, for he was the Grand adviser, who always had an answer and who was never wrong. 

At the end of the day, when the whole kingdom was having a festival, the little girl leaned toward her friend’s ear, and whispered, “Thank you, my precious Elephant.”  

~~~

So, while this little girl’s parents tore each other apart and broke this little girl’s heart over and over;   She remembered that she always had her Elephant.

And elephants never forget.

But they do forgive. 

Procrastinating Does Work

     Inspiration was yet to strike the young artist. Minutes passed. Then hours passed. Eventually, days had passed. Hands were twirled. Sentences were typed. But, none felt inspired enough. 

     So, naturally the artist did what anyone dedicated to their craft would do, she procrastinated. She made brownie cookies. (yummy btw (:) She rearranged an entire home. She even attempted to watch paint dry.  Finally a light bulb went off over her head. She would write about procrastinating, one of her favorite past times. Quickly she reached for her laptop and began to type. 

     Fingers danced across the keys elegantly to push the ideas out of her skull so she wouldn’t get distracted. (she was still distracted) Her eyes were fixed the screen like it was a binge-worthy show. After a few minutes, maybe hours of working she let out a satisfied sigh. Here’s the finished result of the poem. The following poem is the original work of Taylor Lafayette titled, “Procrastination.”

I  will  do  it

One  day 

What  is  such  a  task  that  demands  my  efforts?

One  day 

It  shall  get  done

But,  now  is  NOT  the  time

The  sun’s  too  low 

And  I’m  feeling  ill

Excuses  accumulate  in  my  lap

Not  a  bone  in  my  body  wants  to  be  put  to  motion

So  I  rest  them  now  and  pending

If  my  position  changes 

So  does  the  weather

I  will  do  it 

One  day 

But,  Today’s  not  that  day 

What  is  such  a  task  that  demands  my  efforts?

     Sometimes procrastination does work. Keep procrastinating friends, just pinkie promise to not tell your parents or teachers I said that. (it’s our little secret, u pinkie promised)

 

A girly do be sad, and that’s okay.

When I watch the clouds dissolve in the sky

I think of you, I see you

your beautiful mind, your radiant soul 

maybe, just maybe

that’s the reason I run to my window and lay my head on its sill when I’m sure I’m screaming my last cry for help 

into the vastness of absolute nothing 

I don’t want to leave you screaming at the sky 

But why should I continue to be left in defeat 

Because just like the clouds

You’ll come 

and 

You’ll go 

I wanted to share this piece because it’s the first piece I’ve written in a while when feeling down. I forgot how helpful writing is when your brain is scrambled and fighting against you. Mental health is so important and I’m so happy I discovered writing as one of my coping mechanisms. I hope that this piece will encourage a reader of mine to write the next time they feel down like we all do at times. It’s so relieving to get your thoughts down on paper and out of your mind. If you haven’t tried it, DO IT and drink some water while you do. 🙂

Autumn’s Arriving and I Couldn’t Be More Excited

I’m allowing myself to fully devolve into a basic white girl for this one. There will be an appreciation for pumpkin spice, big sweaters, and vanilla lattes, so be warned. If I owned a pair of Uggs, they’d probably be mentioned too. 

So, now since that’s out of the way, let’s get talking SPOOKY SEASON.

The chill breeze in the air, the subtle scent of autumn baked goods, and the hidden unshaved legs of women everywhere give the season such a joyful and chill vibe– one I look forward to every year. Walmart and other superstores have started bringing out their Halloween decorations, and my wallet’s getting skinnier by the second. My shopping cart’s constantly full of little pumpkin and cinnamon apple candles with costume accessories littered over them. Sweater weather is in full swing, and you bet I’m getting ready for it. Knit sweaters and corduroy pants are all I’m gonna be wearing, baby. Time to crack open my dark lipstick and a jug of apple cider because I’ve been waiting for this for ages.

Halloween has been my favorite holiday for most of my life, as I always loved to dress up in costumes and watch the Halloween specials on TV. Even today, I have a personal tradition of watching Cartoon Network’s Over the Garden Wall every October that’s lasted for a few years now. My fingers are itching to start carving pumpkins, brew pumpkin spice coffee, and stitch together costumes to wear. 

Of course, things are definitely going to be different now with Covid-19 knocking on everyone’s doors, but the spirit of autumn and Halloween will live on! I am certain of it. So go out there and get your vanilla lattes and eat discounted chocolate; you deserve it!

Change

Hey kitty gurls! It is me again, and can I just say that I have been feeling very nostalgic recently? Like, I recently have just had all these events coinciding with one another causing me to reflect on my past. 

To start, I took a trip to New Orleans because that is what me and my family always do. The stench and filth just really keeps em’ coming back! No, I am just kidding. (I am not a big fan of New Orleans, but I think it’s because I’ve gone so much.) NOLA really is a place with rich culture and fun times, when everything is open. It was such a downfall when almost every restaurant or shop we used to go to was closed. We literally just partied in the hotel room which we could have just done at our house for free. It was such a buzzkill. The universe was almost just pissing on our past and present. I blame this on COVID-19, obviously. I am not going to sit here and make the entire blog about COVID-19, however. We are all sick of it.  

Friendly Reminder: Please wear your masks correctly and social distance, and thanks to the people who do not have to be reminded. 

I am sorry if any of what I just said seemed shallow. Trips to New Orleans have been so consistent within my life since I was but a wee baby. My brother even has a New Orleans inspired tattoo. Everything being shut down just seemed like we were the mere survivors of an apocalypse. Walking alone down the streets, and not even the rats were to be seen.  

It is extremely tragic to think of what our world has become. You can take a place like New Orleans- known for its’ colorful jazzy, party vibes. Great! Then, you take that away and all the fun life has just been savagely ripped from the heart of the city. We need to file a lawsuit with the universe! Like, what is that? Who told someone at headquarters that that was okay? 

I may be ranting, but someone needed to say it. Following back to the nostalgia, get this hot gossip. I had an old friend group, and we were closer than blood. Until one of them blew it all up for a boyfriend. Was I mad at her? Yes and no. Yes, because I loved what we had, but I also had room to grow on my own some now. After a couple months, (maybe even a year or two) of absolutely no connection whatsoever, she texts. It was so out of the blue. I was gooped, gagged, and everything in between. Do I give this person another chance? I think I should. Everyone learns and grows and evolves into different people. 

It almost ties back to my last blog post. We should strive to see what people can become and not what they may have been or are stuck being in the moment. New Orleans is just a little droopy now but give it time and it will no doubt rise or even surpass its’ former glory. An ex friend could just be my new best Judy, again. To anyone reading this, just keep on keeping on because it can get better. 

Life got you down Mary?

         Hey girl hey! This is my first blog ever so please bare with me.

Optimists. Pessimists. The world is full of them, and if you’re human then you are probably one of either. Full disclosure though: I am an optimist. Yes, I am the type of person who will try and turn every situation around for the positive. Some, who are negative minded, may get annoyed by this behavior. I respect their viewpoint on how they choose to perceive life, but why?

I have always heard that it is not about what happens to you in life, but how you react to what happens. I heard that and said mama preach!

I would like to share this poem which goes of a similar idea in perspective on the world around us. First, read the poem from top to bottom. Then, I read it from bottom to top and see what happens.

    “Worst Day Ever?” By Chanie Gorkin

Today was the absolute worst day ever
And don’t try to convince me that
There’s something good in every day
Because, when you take a closer look,
This world is a pretty evil place.
Even if
Some goodness does shine through once in a while
Satisfaction and happiness don’t last.
And it’s not true that
It’s all in the mind and heart
Because
True happiness can be obtained
Only if one’s surroundings are good
It’s not true that good exists
I’m sure you can agree that
The reality
Creates
My attitude
It’s all beyond my control
And you’ll never in a million years hear me say that
Today was a good day

Crazy right? It was so astonishing to me the fact that such a feat was accomplished of the two sided viewpoint. Reading the poem from top to bottom we see a grim outlook on the day, but reverse it and you an optimistic stance on the day. It could even be used as a metaphor. For example, if life has just got you in the blues or a situation gets rough and tough, find ways to flip the script. Focus more on the positives that are going on within your experience. 

It is not easy to always find good though. I mean emotions never should be suppressed or neglected because of fear. We have all been there, with some Lana Del Rey blaring and runny mascara, and you have not lived if you do not know what I mean.

*raises hand* Guilty.

I am not ashamed to admit it. If someone constantly neglects the negative emotions they are deeply feeling it can lead your body and mind to attempt to cope with some pretty messed up habits. Again, guilty.  

Going back to the topic however, it is how you overcome and bounce back from these bad experiences that make you a stronger human being. A pessimist usually may not bounce back, and can get stuck on the struggle bus.

Full transparency, this was totally me my first week at the Mississippi School of the Arts. This place is so so so different from my old school on so many levels. From the people, to the technology, to even the stairs, I was not prepared for what was to come. (Nor was my stamina for the stairs, but that is another story for another day) Anyway, I had to shift my mindset and drop many of the high school stereotypes that had been instilled in me. If I wouldn’t have done this I might still be on the mess express. I remember Oprah once talked about a great way to change the way you think. She said to write down five simple things you were appreciative of from that day. It could be so simple from just someone opening up a door for you. 

If you struggle with pessimistic ways clogging your mental space try this exercise. I want to end this post with a little assignment from Oprah. Feel free to call-in or comment below and keep me up with how it’s going. 

♥ Till next time kitty girls!