There are some lessons I learned in 2018 that I would like to share.
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#1: Deal with things no matter how difficult they may seem. The longer you go without dealing with the negative things in your life, you not only hurt yourself, but the people who have done nothing to you. Take the time to deal with things before the issue(s) becomes bigger/deeper than it needs to.
#2: Always have something or someone you can always vent to. It is nice to think that we are strong enough to deal with everything on our own, but that is just not true. We can try, but it won’t work. Life was not made to walk alone. I suggest having an older and wiser to person to vent to and to believe in some form of a higher power. That higher power can be anything you just whole-heartedly believe in. Those who things alone will get you a long way.
#3: Trust your gut. Nobody knows and understands you like you do and nobody ever will. With that being said, you have to trust yourself enough to allow yourself not to put yourself in the wrong situations. (Read that last sentence slowly, it makes sense, lol.)
#4: Think your mind, not your heart. Everybody is not in your life for the long run. Some people are placed in your life just to teach you something, whether it be positive or negative. Take the lesson and let them go. Do NOT repeatedly try to keep someone around who isn’t supposed to be. Accept it, deal with it, grow from it, and move on.
#5: Don’t let other people’s problems stress you out. You have your own life to live. Just because that is your friend does not mean that their problems are your problems. Support and love is not always shown with inserting yourself into the problem. The best thing you can do is offer your advice or opinion and support whatever they decide to do, as long as it doesn’t go against the morals you have set for yourself.
#6: You literally have ONE life. Do not spend it worrying about how the next person feels about you. People are going to like or dislike you for one reason or another and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. No matter how much you do or change, they will always have their own feeling about you.
#7: The things that happen in your life happen for a reason. Most of the time, they are to make you either emotionally stronger or wiser. Depending on the situation, it can enhance both. Try your hardest to not break down as much because believe it or not, it is all happening for a reason. I know sometimes it feels like your world is falling a part and there is nothing more you can do but break down, and that is okay. And if or when you do breakdown, know that once the pieces fall back in line, you will look and feel better than ever before.
#8: Live to learn! Learn to love! Love life! Any other type of love will come later on. Let it happen naturally.
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I strongly believe that 2018 was the year of losses and lessons. 2019 will be the year of applying those lessons and success-ing. No matter what, keep your head up high. I was listening to a song by Heather Headley. It;s called “In My Mind”. It’s somewhat of a love song about a man leaving a woman and her thinking “in her mind”, she’ll always be his. Well, I had the song on repeat because it was something about the song that just made me think. Then I realized what it was. There’s a part in the song that says,
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“They say if you love something, you’ve got to let it go.
And if it comes back, then it means so much more.
Fine if it never does, at least you will know,
that it was something you had to go through to grow.”
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Yes, it fits the idea of the song, but my interpretation of this was so much different. Now, I live by this. I’m not saying you should to, but just consider it.
