Hey guys! Today’s blog will be about overachieving. I’ll speak on my experience in overachieving and why we as people aim to do it. Let’s get straight into it. Overachieving is the act of performing better or achieving more than is expected or standard. Overachieving to me is the act of trying to obtain self assurity or confidence while canceling out insecurity. The main question I have is “are overachievers insecure, or do they just lack educational confidence?” During my research I learned that the act of overachieving can stem from feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. In a job or at school, completing a task or assignment can offer feelings of self-worth and relief. Instead of soaking in and savoring the feeling of that accomplishment or achievement, overachievers tend to move onto the next task and expect even more for themselves.
Don’t get me wrong, overachieving can be a great thing. It shows how much you care about and respect the work that you’re doing, but overachievers don’t always give their work value or see finishing a task as meaningful. People usually see overachievers as smart, hardworking, successful people. That is how overachievers should be viewed but when you start to feel like your achievements are being shadowed by anxiety, or an overwhelming fear of failing you may need to think about why you want to succeed so badly. Failure is a part of so many processes of life and it eventually leads people to success, but if you can’t stand the thought of failing then you may be a perfectionist as well. Overachieving and perfectionism are a terrible pair made in the devil’s workshop. Me personally I don’t think I’m an overachiever or a perfectionist, but a mixture of the two. I say that because if I fail, I’m not okay with it, because I want to succeed, but I also don’t stress over it. I just think of it as part of the process and say “I’ll get it next time”.
I know people that will study for hours the night before a test and then start crying thinking that they’ll still fail. Something I’ve also realized is that overachievers and perfectionists are always motivated by someone or something. For example, they may have gotten into their dream school and dedicated their success to their grandmother who passed away shortly before. Now they think if they fail, then they’ve failed their grandmother. Or their mother may be pressuring them into having perfect grades, etc. I feel like people around us fuel a lot of our personal insecurities and we shouldn’t let that happen. I know that it’s easier said than done, but it can be done. Make sure that whatever you want to achieve is truly important to you perosnally.
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