If someone were to ask you about yourself what would you say? Perhaps, your name might be the first thing to slip your tongue. Maybe, where you grew up, number of siblings, or what you do in your free time might come next. But, what does the person already know?
The person already has a sense of who you are by what they first physically see…
First impressions of me are usually that I am a short, black, girl with impeccable fashion sense. (Yes, I’m tooting my own horn there.) Others may say that I’m shy with a chill personality.
…but, really, how do they see you?
Here is how I see myself and my truth. I see myself as Bisexual Black Girl living in an America that doesn’t deem me fit for the society they portray. I am myself, loudly and proudly and I am never afraid to speak my truth no matter how much I know it doesn’t want to be heard.
I have been told multiple times that I’m not “black” enough. I have been told that I don’t act “bisexual”. Does that change the fact that I am most definitely both black and bisexual? No, it does not. All I’m trying to say is how others see you really shouldn’t matter. All that matter is how you see yourself.
If you choose to see yourself in a negative light, ask yourself why you only choose to see your flaws and imperfections instead of the true beauty I know you possess. If you choose to hide who you truly are, ask yourself why that is. Is your environment not safe enough to bask in your truth? Or is it simply you not yet knowing your truth?
If you find that you stumble over telling who you are to someone, you may not yet know your true self. And that’s ok. Take time to get to know you. Take time to love everything about yourself. Because how can you possibly give the honest answer of who you are if you haven’t got the answer yourself?
Self love and Exploration, Friends
-A bisexual black girl who is still learning herself 🙂
