I’m sure we all have had our fair share with toxic relationships whether it’s platonic or romantic. And we of course all had the desperate feeling of wanting to remove our self from the situation, but for some odd reason that I can’t make of- we stay.
We continue to re-enter ourselves in toxic relationships and the only thing that you are doing is deteriorating your own energy. I know it might feel that the person or even people love us and want the best for us. So we stay in the relationship despite all the signs that your body is telling you to get away.
I’m going to say this and I want you to really take this to heart: Stop ignoring you body, stop ignoring you soul, stop ignoring your mental health, and cut them off.
If they’re not doing anything in your life to help your grow into the person you want to be. Cut them off. If every time you talk to them and their energy does not match the energy they are giving them. Cut them off. If they make you feel bad about how you look or yourself. Cut them off. If they continue to say harsh things to you after you told them you don’t approve. Sweetie, please cut them off.
I know it might seem harsh and you probably don’t want people to see you as a mean person, but in all honestly stop caring about what people think about you. Start putting yourself first. Learn your self worth and begin putting your self up on pedestal so high that you can’t even see the top of your head. I know that might seem dramatic or extra but I promise you it is. However, it is needed. You deserve friends that appreciate what you have to say. You deserve a significant other that listens to you when you talk and wants to hear more. You deserve people in your life to know your self worth and to respect you.
If you are now thinking about the people in your life and trying to decide if they are right for you. Here are some signs of toxic people.
- If they are manipulative.
- Judgmental about everything you do.
- They give backhanded compliments.
- They have no respect for boundaries.
- If they make you feel guilty.
- If you feel overlooked in their presence.
I know this may all sound like too much, and you maybe feel like you will be alone if you do cut off all your toxic relationships. However, believe me when I say this it is better to be alone than feel alone in a group of people that are supposed to be your friends.
Wow you really came for me in this blog, Steph. I needed it, though. Thank you for this.
Wow, Stephyne. I am sure a lot of people needed this. I appreciate your approach to self-care, and we definitely need to be reminded of this from time to time. We do tend to deceive ourselves into thinking that certain people are good to us and even needed in our lives when, in fact, it is a completely different case. Certain people do kind of deteriorate your well-being without you even noticing, so sometimes we need to be aware of the red flags. I liked your organization of ideas and your overall approach to the topic. Awesome job. (:
wowwwww. I really needed to read this. This is just such a needed topic to confront in general. I love the way you think and I wish more people could think that way also. I didn’t even realize how toxic certain people were to me until I read this. You’re so right about learning to leave them for you and not staying for them. I truly love this.
This post attacked me because I need to truly follow this. I think the sad part in life is knowing that one day your closest friend can turn into a stranger. I need to listen to my heart more and forget about that part of life. People come and go and that’s okay. I have to strive to be better for ME. Thank you for this post.
Let me tell you, some people really need to see this. I cannot tell you how many times I have seen people stay with friends who are terrible to them. I have even been in that place before. this was much needed.