Spreading Good Energy

So, recently the energy at MSA has been different. Astrologically speaking, it’s because Mercury is in retrograde. Empathically speaking, it’s because everyone has just become so weighed down by the dreariness of the weather.

That being said, I compiled a list of quotes for those that have been especially sad these past few weeks. There are Bible verses; however, if you are uncomfortable with reading them, you can skip over them or just negate the entire post. I promise, it’s fine! So, without further ado, here we go!!

  • “There is no greater gift we can give another person than allowing them to be who they are, not who we may want them to be.”
  • “So much effort goes into trying to be perfect. How much more attractive are vulnerability and imperfection?”
  • “It’s tiring wanting things in the mind to be different than what they are.”
  • “We are not our thoughts. We are not our emotions. If we can learn to experience them in this way, then we are free.”
  • “If we’re always trying to escape difficult emotions, how can we understand them? Mindfulness is to be at ease with the mind, as it is.”
  • “We do not have to slow down to be mindful. Simply to be present for each and every moment is enough.”
  • “fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. (Isaiah 41:10)”
  • “Bless those who persecute you. (Romans 12: 14)”
  • “If someone only loves you for gain, it isn’t really love.”
  • “Love is most evident when you’re in your worst state.”
  • ” Maybe not everything needs a cure.”
  • “Life is unmanageable, but share it with ones you love.”
  • “…forget what lies behind and focus on what lies ahead. (Philippians 3:13-14)”
  • “He heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds. (Psalms 147:3)”

I hope these help you! May you stay safe and well in this drowsy weather and may you find peace in a time of emotional imbalance. And remember, I am always open to talk. Even if it’s about nothing at all. I am always open to sit and talk with whoever needs me. Just email me at azya.lyons@msabrookhaven.org. Have a good day, and be safe!!

 

-Azya <3

Sunshine On Her Skin

Hi!! This is a piece I write last week and I’m really proud of it!! Hope you like it!


“Drenched in melanin,  I can still feel her hand in mine, her body by mine, her soul entangling itself with mine. I can still see her charcoal eyes, her midnight skin, her cocoa brown curls. I can still smell the flowers: the lilies, the daisies, the sunflowers, the honeysuckles. I can still hear the ress tittering to themselves, gossiping like our mothers used to. And I still remember how she looked there, next to me. The wind nipped at her cheeks, whipped at her clothes, and delicately whispered to us, saying nothing but not needing to. Her shirt was white and her jeans were blue. She had found flowers that she liked, so they sat perched in her hair. Her skin had just begun to clear up, so she was glowing as if  she were the Sun. She danced with the clouds as I watched. Her voice rang out, rose above the stars, and echoed into distant galaxies. Her eyes held a happiness that transcended time and space itself. How beautiful she is. How beautiful she was.

    That night, I watched the sunset in her embrace. It was so beautiful. The sky was a mirage of blues, pinks, purples, reds. It felt as if the sky had presented all of its best just for us. And at that thought, she cried. She said that, ‘It was too beautiful to be just for her. Just for us.’ But I believe it was. God had painted the stars for us and we were so very grateful. So very in love. She kissed my curls and laced her fingers in mine. She traced the freckles on my shoulders, the expanse of my back, the curve of my spine. She always smelled so good. That night, she smelled like the flowers laced into her hair. There was no need for words, for speaking, despite the fact that we could taste a lifetime on our tongues. That night, on that tiny little rock, I fell asleep in her arms. And I dreamt of the words we never said. Of staying there and building our entire lives around it. Turn the rock into a boulder, maybe. But, I woke up before the world did. Before she did. And, basked in moonlight, I couldn’t help but think, ’How beautiful she is’. And how beautiful she was. 

    She woke up shortly after I did, and we sang the stars to sleep. There is a saying that black girls and boys turn blue under moonlight. And she was my favorite shade. Her hair lit pale.

Her eyes sparkled. Her voice reached beyond us. And, in that moment, when everything fell away except for her and I, I was absolutely in love with her. And I told her so. And the words rippled through my chest. She smiled at me, her teeth perfect and her gums dark, and whispered,’ Our love is as free as the stars in the sky’. That was her telling me that she loved me too. And she kissed me. Every cell in my body buzzed with joy. With anticipation. With something more than heavenly. And I absolutely loved it. She tasted like coffee and strawberries and sleep.  Goodness Gracious, she was, hands down, the love of my life. But the sky woke up, and she had to go home. It broke my heart everytime, but we met up every night, so it wasn’t too bad.”

 Grandma, that’s beautiful. It sounds as if you were two were genuinely in love with each other. Whatever happened? Do you two still talk?”

    “One night, we met on our rock. It was shrouded in this thick skirt of trees and vegetation. She broke through their shadow and I could’ve sworn she was the most beautiful thing on this Earth. The moonlight had kissed her with an ethereal glow. Her hair was pulled back, but it still looked as if she had spent hours styling it. Her eyes were sprinkled with stars. She could’ve been a goddess, that’s how gorgeous she was. Her hair was slightly messy, frayed at the ends, and as she got closer to me, the illumination shone through the stray strands, forming a halo. Her voice was butter. She loved singing. We would sing to the birds and the trees and the sky all night. I loved listening to her. She had a way of making you feel what she felt with her voice. If she was sad, she’d sing ballads. If she was angry, she rang war cries. When we were together, she mostly sang love songs. And every word she uttered reverberated through my chest, got caged in my ribs, and escaped through my heart. She was the next Billie Holiday. And after she sang, she kissed me, sweetly. But someone else heard her. Someone else saw her. Someone else felt her heartbeat in their chest. But they didn’t like it. So, that night, from amongst the brush, a shot was fired. It hit her. Right in the neck. She fell off the rock, right onto the cushion of grass below. And I followed her. But there was so much blood. So little that I could do. We were sat there for what felt like an eternity, but it was most likely a span of 10 minutes. She didn’t say a word, she just watched the stars. And I watched them in her eyes. I watched the tears form and disappear. I watched the words bubble up and evaporate. And I watched as the twinkle in her eye dimmed. I cried. I held her to my chest, I sat there, and I cried until the Sun woke up. But, by then, she had already passed into the other world.”

“I’m so sorry for your loss.”

    It’s fine. The Universe had righted itself. The man that killed her had gotten Ole Sparky.”

 “Did you watch him die?”

    No, I don’t really care for watching people die. And it would’ve been pointless. I had already forgiven him. I had found my closure. I just hope he’s okay wherever he is.  And I pray that she’s safe wherever she is.”

“That’s beautiful.”

 “Thank you.”

Anyone

As some of you may know, the Grammys aired this past weekend and the guests popped off! From Tyler, the Creator to Brandi Carlisle, celebrity after celebrity filed in. And the performances were to die for! So many amazing artists stepped forward and claimed the stage, if not only for a few minutes.  But, the best part of it all to me was Demi Lovato’s performance. After her almost 4 year hiatus, she debuted a beautiful, raw piece of artwork, titled Anyone. I want to completely break this song down for you.


I tried to talk to my piano
I tried to talk to my guitar
Talk to my imagination


I tried and tried and tried some more
Told secrets ’til my voice was sore
Tired of empty conversation
‘Cause no one hears me anymore

Here, she is saying that she tried to channel this emotion into music, into anything, but all she’s doing is trying. “Told secrets ’til my voice was sore” can mean that she told secrets to her guitar and piano, that’s how I understood it, but it’s up to the listener to interpret that. The lines following that mean what they say. She’s tired of empty conversation, or small talk, because she feels as if that isn’t helping her. No one truly hears her.

A hundred million stories
And a hundred million songs
I feel stupid when I sing
Nobody’s listening to me
Nobody’s listening

I talk to shooting stars
But they always get it wrong
I feel stupid when I pray
So, why am I praying anyway?
If nobody’s listening.

“A hundred million stories and a hundred million songs” is a hyperbole for how many songs she has released, beings that she has been in the music business since she was a teenager. “I feel stupid when I sing/Nobody’s listening to me” is very powerful when you take into account that she has been singing since she was a toddler. Singing has been her life and the fact that she feels stupid doing what she’s always done because she feels as if no one is listening is genuinely heartbreaking.

“I talk to shooting stars/ But they always get it wrong” is one of my personal favorites. She is saying that she’s been praying, that she’s been “talking to the stars” but they haven’t been working. That they haven’t been doing right. “I feel stupid when I pray…Nobody’s listening” details her doubt in the fact that anyone, anything, is indeed, listening. That’s the deepest type of loneliness, honestly. The feeling that the one person that you have worshipped since birth isn’t there anymore. No matter who or what you may pray to, that is the ultimate form of heartbreak.

Anyone, please send me anyone
Lord, is there anyone?
I need someone

She’s lonely and just needs that shoulder to cry on. That’s it. There is no deeper meaning other than she needs someone to be there for her and understand her and just listen to everything. She’s being weighed down by whatever it is she needs to say, and “nobody’s listening”.

I used to crave the world’s attention
I think I cried too many times
I just need some more affection
Anything to get me by

This is the last verse before everything repeats and she really hit hard with it. “I used to crave the world’s attention” could be deciphered as her crying out for help and no one hearing it or it can be deciphered as her wanting someone, anyone to hear her. “I just need some more affection/ Anything to get me by” is one of the best, most powerful lines in this entire song. Her intent is clear. She wants affection. A hug. A shoulder to cry on. A conversation that focuses on how she feels and what she says. Anything to help her feel less lonely.

Everything in this song points to loneliness and feeling muted. The pure emotion in her voice when she performed it just makes this song all the more powerful and beautiful. Overall, a masterpiece.

My last remark is that I hope she feels heard, because we are all listening now.

Bops

Hi! So, beings that I have absolutely no idea what to do for a blog post this week, I decided that I would put y’all on some good songs. So, with out further ado, here we go.


So, first, Yours by Evann McIntosh.

Okay, so Evann McIntosh has probably become one of my favorite artists. As a 15 year old musician, she’s doing amazing. And her voice is so beautiful, oh my gooDNESSSSS. God, I’ve literally been listening to her Album MOJO on repeat for the last week. It’s just so…ugh. *chef’s kiss*

Speaking of her music, this song is only a testament to how beautiful she is as a singer. With lines like, “The way you take my breath away/I often need a medic/ If you should ever leave me/ put me on anesthetics”, you can really feel what it’s like to love someon naked eye, this is simple English. But I am a hopeless romantic and the thought of being short of breath because someone is just so…oof is amazing and makes my heart beat a little faster. 🙂

 

Also, I’m With You by Avril Lavigne???? *Chef’s kiss*

You cannot look me into my face and tell me honestly that you didn’t jam out to Avril Lavigne when you were younger. Like, Avril Lavigne was and is a household name. She was literally Billie Eilish before pop culture knew Billie Eilish was Billie Eilish. Like, she’s just so iconic, from her hair to her voice, she’s just so…sensational.

This song was written when she was about 14 and it’s so gorgeous. Beings that this song is so beautiful, I refuse to give you any slips of lyric because you, as a reader, deserve to listen fully to the song.

 

And lastly, Peach Scone by Hobo Johnson.

This. Song. Is. Immaculate. And I stand by that. Literally, it’s so versatile.

If you’re having a bad day, listen to this song. If you’re having an amazing day, listen to this song. If you’re just looking for a song to vibe to, LISTEN TO THIS SONG. It’s so amazing and the lyrics are absolutely gorgeous.

The story in the song is about unrequited love. A friend falls in love with a friend with a boyfriend. And it’s just so true to life and love and humanity. It’s just…an amazing song. I genuinely recommend it to anyone. Goodness.

 

Anyways, that’s this week’s blog post!! I hope you enjoyed! Which of these was your favorites? And what’s your favorite song that isn’t on here? I’d love to know!

Open Letter – Coffee House Piece

Trigger Warning: This piece deals heavily with abuse and touches on subjects of depression and self harm. 

 

Dear young victims of abuse, 

 

I know you. I may not know your name and I may not know who you are, but I know you. I know that you have tasted salt water drip from the oceans in your eyes as you tend to busted lips and/or broken hearts. I know the turmoil and tragedy that haunts your dreams and your realities. I know that you feel stuck, as if nothing in this world could ever be enough to help. And I know that when the possibility of calvary ever coming fled, you became desensitized to everything. The pain hurts a little bit less now, the tears flow a little less abundantly now, and and the hope you so desperately clung to is  a whole lot harder to find. And, being young, you feel even more unloveable. Unhelpable. Unworthy. And I know of the unspeakable traumas that the resulting sadness can cause. I know that after the sadness leaves, the depression sets in. And after that, the numbness transforms into anger. And with that anger comes questions: “Why am I so pathetic?” “Why can’t I just be perfect?” “Why am I not good enough?” “Why?” 

 

I know all too well because, at one point in time, I was you. I was hopeless, helpless, and restless. I have felt the wrath of leather straps and belt buckles and extension cords. I too have been punished for living. I too have hated myself for everything that I was and am. I too hated myself for the oxygen I held captive in my lungs. I too have stood where you stand and I too have said what you say. I understand. But despite everything, despite the hurt and the tears and despite the sleepless nights filled with fear, I know that, as cliché as it may sound, this won’t be your reality forever. Life will hand out its justice. Prayers will be heard. And, in due time, you will find the happiness that you crave. So, heed the next words that escape my lips: don’t act on those urges. Because those urges provide instant gratification. They won’t make you happy. They won’t help your situation. They won’t do anything for you except become an addiction. They start to become your normal train of thought and, as time goes on, they get darker and darker until there’s nothing left of you except a decaying corpse and restless soul. They do nothing but make you your own worst enemy. Don’t do it to yourself. Because the second you do, your chances of a happier end disappear. And when that leaves, there is no getting it back. There is no getting you back. 

 

So believe me when I say that it gets better. Because it does. The skies will brighten and the clouds will wash away and, sooner or later, you will feel content. Happy. Full of life and excited to keep living. And you will be proud of yourself. Proud of your scars. Proud of your burns. Proud of your journey. And you will look back and see a person you no longer know. And you will be just as proud of yourself as I am of you. 

 

But, you will face a life-time of trauma. You will have trouble trusting any- and everyone. And you will hate yourself for it. But there is nothing you will be able to do about it. So, you will wage war on yourself, on your skin and on your soul. You will be scared to talk but will be always listening. And, as you get older, you will understand more. You will understand that his touch wasn’t normal. That those bruises weren’t normal. That the words that repeated on their tongue and in your head aren’t normal and you will understand the severity of the situation you were given. And you will cry. You will cry until your face is red and your eyes are red and your vision is red and everything is red and you won’t be able to hear or to feel or to do anything but cry and cry and cry and cry. You will feel used and useless at the same time. You will try to wash their touch away. You will try to brush those thoughts away. You will try to do anything and everything to eliminate the thought of them, but nothing will work. So you’ll scrub harder. And you’ll brush longer. And you’ll try for years and years until your skin puckers and your hair falls out and you have nothing left to clean. You will be scared to leave your room because the outside world is so scary. You will forget to eat. Forget to drink. You will forget that you are even alive. Until your saving grace walks through your bedroom door, holding a bottle of water and a sandwich. And you will remember why you’re here. 

 

So, sweet child, hang on. Never forget that there is something beyond the 4 walls that hold you captive. Never forget that there is still beauty in this world and that you are here for a reason. And when you get older, you will be strong. And beautiful. And amazing. I love you.

 

Sincerely,

A former victim of child abuse. 

I May Be More Mixed Than I Thought I Was

So, a few days ago, I found a TikTok. It was very beautiful and hilarious and I became fascinated by this short, sweet video. In this clip, there was a gorgeous girl–her name is Venus and she’s most likely legal–and she was decked out in pony beads. She had a pony bead necklace, a million pony bead bracelets, and I think a pony bead mask. She had on this beautiful, crazy makeup that made her look like a concert fairy. She, alone, was very mesmerizing. But in the video, she does this…thing? She held her hand up to  the camera and did a few hand gestures, all of which are appropriate. And, it just really fascinated me. Here is the video:

Her @ on TikTok is theaphroditevenuss

I literally have this saved to my phone. I just kept watching it, over and over and over again. I was entranced. But, it really got me thinking. What the heck is she doing? Why was she doing it? So, I took to Google and tried my best to explain to myself why I was so interested in this video. Everything I found completely engrossed me into this subculture. I just kept researching and reading and watching.

Basically, she is a “Scene Rave Girl”. The thing she was doing with her hand is called PLUR, an acronym for Peace, Love, Unity, Respect. They’re the principles commonly associated with Rave culture. The bracelet she “traded” is commonly called Kandi. They’re made of pony beads and string. Honestly, finding this out made me more intrigued to this. So I started listening to rave music. The first song I listened to was Pretty Rave Girl by S3RL (the song in the video) and Eat Sleep Rave Repeat by Fatboy Slim, Riva Starr, and Beardyman. I found myself completely in love with these songs. The high energy, the  beat drops, the crazy nostalgia that comes with this music. I was completely and absolutely head-over-heels with it. All of it. This made me feel crazy, because never in my life had I felt such a molecular connection with a bass drop, ya’ know?

This sent me whirling into an identity crisis. Do I want to be a “Scene Rave Girl”? Do I want to spend money on a festival where I can be in a crowd of sweaty bodies moving to a song that has practically no emotional value? Do I want to dress as if I send “Rawr XD ^-^” in text conversations? And the answer, sadly, is yes. I want to be a “Scene Rave Girl”. I want to jump around in a crowd of must and stank at the slight chance that I might become friends with another “Scene Rave Girl” and we rave together. I want to get dressed in crazy beautiful makeup that makes me look like a concert fairy. I want all of that. And that’s what ate me up most on the inside.

Knowing this knowledge, I cried in the lap of my great friend, Chloe Russell. I sat on the floor beside her chair and laugh-cried myself into hysteria while Callie calmly chuckled at me. She began poking fun at me, I guess her way of making the situation better, and we giggled together. And, in this conversation, she told me I was a RSCO Girl–a rave VSCO girl. That made me cry a little harder, because although it made no sense whatsoever, it fit. But her humor helped. And after that, I calmed down. I sucked up my tears and I got over it. Who hasn’t had a little identity crisis at some point before they turn 18? So, yeah. That’s it.

Merry Christmas!!!

A Playlist Built For The MSA Experience

So, I’ve decided to make a playlist based on my MSA Experience thus far. And I’m not gonna lie, the songs on it are bops. So I decided to share them with you so that you can get a chance to love MSA from a different view: a lyrical view. So, without further adieu, my playlist for Mississippi School of the Arts. 🙂

An Essay Written Freshman Year

People think we’re so nice. That we couldn’t possibly be cold blooded. But don’t be fooled. Women can be just as crazy and dark as any normal serial killer. In this little essay, we talk about the 3 worst female serial killers in the world. 

First off, Joanna Dennehy. She was just 15 when she left home, which started her volatile relationship with John Treanor. That resulted in him taking their 2 children. She then moved to Peterborough and lived with Kevin Lee. In November of 2013, after being diagnosed with psychopathic antisocial personality disorder, Dennehy admitted to murdering and preventing to bury 3 men. Police believe she did it just for fun. 

Next we have the Australian Child Killer: Kathleen Folbigg. As a baby, she was sent to foster care because her father had killed her mother. As she became an adult, she married Craig Folbigg and had a son, Caleb. At 19 days old, he died of what they thought was Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). They had another son, named Patrick, and he died of due to asphyxia, a disease in which you suffocate yourself. Then they had Sarah, who died of SIDS. Then, 6 years later, they had another child. Laura died. After they separated, Craig went through some of her diaries and found some pretty sketchy stuff. After denying the murder of her children, in 2003, was convicted of murdering 3 of her kids and the manslaughter of one. 

Finally, we have Jane Toppan, or the Prolific Poisoner. Jane Toppan was a nurse, but while she walked the corridors of her ward at night, she began conducting experiments on patients. Using Morphine and other drugs to poison them. After moving to another hospital, she continued her experiments. She soon got laid off after too many patients died in her care. She also killed her sister and a few family friends. In 1902, she admitted to killing 21 people and over a dozen hospital patients, saying that it sexually aroused her watching her victims die. She was found not guilty by fault of insanity and was committed to an insane asylum. She died at age 84 in 1938. 

As you can see, women aren’t as sweet and naive as you think we are. We can be cruel and vicious just like any man. But, that doesn’t mean we’re all cold-blooded killers. We’re not all like Jane Toppan, Joanna Dennehy, or even Kathleen Folbigg. But we all are normal with sometimes psychotic, most times idiotic thoughts that could land us in jail.

 

I am very aware of all of the errors in this blog, but I like to see how far I’ve come as a writer. To my fellow literary juniors, I challenge you to post something from very long ago and recognize how far you’ve come in your writing journey. 

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Hi, this is a poem I wrote a few weeks ago! I hope you like it!

Hello, Old Friend. Do you remember me? 
You seem to have captured my thoughts recently.
Do you ever think of me?
Do you ever think of the nights spent dreaming and
Planning for a tomorrow?
Do you remember the songs we sang as the rain broke 
Through the window pane and kissed our cheeks?
I do.
 
You know, some nights I dream about you.
It’s nothing too crazy or wild, but I’ll dream of you.
We’ll be somewhere that I don’t remember but
Can’t forget and we’ll be doing something minute,
But there would be this free wind, this whisper of
The past, blowing through your hair. Your eyes would
Have that look in them that conveyed so much but
Said practically nothing. And you’d emit such a laugh
That could bring the world to a knee. 
 
But then I’d wake up. Those are the saddest, I think. 
The nights when everything you wanted visits
You with a resounding disappointment. 
We were so young and dumb and willing to forget
Our futures for something so fleeting.
If you could go back in time, would you?
Would you come with me to a time where our
Only concern was each other?
 
This might sound a bit selfish, but I see you every once
In a while. You’ll be with your wife and your daughter and
You’ll look so genuinely happy. And my heart shatters
With the thought that I, once upon a time, was the only
Person that knew how beautiful your smile truly was.
Now, she knows our secret. She knows the innermost
Parts of your soul that only revealed themselves after
Nights spent on rooftops and in quiet retreats into the night.
Now, she knows our secrets.
 
I’m sorry. I’ve bombarded you with overanalyzed
emotional secrets. How is your life going, Old Friend?
Are you happy? With her? Are you satisfied with the
Life that has chosen you? 
I hope you are.

An Essay I Wrote for English III that I’m extremely proud of.

Masculine Toxicity: The Evaluation of Toxic Masculinity

Toxic masculinity is a mindset that has plagued men, young and old, since the beginning of time. What if toxic masculinity was a learned behavior? Who teaches it? Why is it so prominent in the Deep South? Well, toxic masculinity is more prominent in the deep south because parents and legal guardians teach their sons “toxic” traits and morales by means of cultural narcissism. 

One example of this cultural narcissism is religious superiority. Being  that most of the Deep South makes up the “Bible Belt,” most southerners build their lives around the Christianity lifestyle.  In 1 Corinthians 14:34-35, Paul says,”34Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience as also saith the law. 35 And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church” (The Bible, King James Version). This shapes toxic masculinity by allowing men, and in some cases women, to blame this type of behavior on the Bible, and thus imposing these ideologies onto their children. These parents act as catalysts for what will happen in society later in life for their kids.

Another example of cultural narcissism is misogynistic media. With the President saying things like “Grab them by the p**sy” in his presidential campaign and with the #MeToo Movement getting so much backlash (predominantly from white men), young, naive boys may grow up to believe what the men say. That fact forces young boys and men to feel this pressure to be ostentatious and use “locker-room talk” when referring to women, which then becomes habit. That habit then seeps into their personality, making them the poster children for toxic masculinity. Although southern culture isn’t as sexist and gender specific as other cultures, i.e. Indian, that does not negate the underlying and surface issues. In “Men and Gender Justice”, Boopalan, an Indian man, says,” Indian men are conditioned to eat, not cook. In addition to this, among siblings, sons are often given more food on their plate so that they can get their “manly” strength. Daughters are shown around the kitchen, taught to cook and provide, and enculturated into patriarchy in several such subconscious and coded ways” (3) . That is almost synonymous to southern culture in America. This helps develop the illusion that The Man is above The Woman. Younger men then learn “their place in society” and young women learn “their place in the kitchen”, putting a halt to progression in a society where everyone feels they should be respected. 

The third and final example of cultural narcissism is racism. The deep south, especially Mississippi and Alabama, is notorious for its extreme racism and colorism. From the Transatlantic Slave Trade to Jim Crow laws to present day wage gaps based on race. Statistically, women of color are more likely to be assaulted than white women. According to Communities of Color and the Impacts of Sexual Violence, it states,”Sexual violence has historically been used to perpetuate racism and colonialism. The colonizer’s gaze viewed the bodies of people of color as inherently “dirty” and unworthy of respect..Native American women and African American women have historically been viewed as ‘rapable.’” In America, there is a hierarchy of privilege; the white men are at the top and the women of color are at the bottom. The ones with the most privilege attack those at the lowest level, essentially asserting dominance, which feeds into their masculine ego. That then turns into toxic masculinity, which eggs on the man to continue to assert his dominance. 

Toxic masculinity is a very detrimental to society, but southern society is completely built around it. It stems from the cultural narcissism embedded into every fiber of southern life. Things like religious superiority, misogyny, and racism all play into this vision of “A Man”.