{"id":16245,"date":"2022-10-05T14:15:51","date_gmt":"2022-10-05T19:15:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/?p=16245"},"modified":"2022-10-05T14:15:54","modified_gmt":"2022-10-05T19:15:54","slug":"what-wrong-with-expectations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/2022\/10\/05\/what-wrong-with-expectations\/","title":{"rendered":"What wrong with expectations?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

In relationships there are just some things that you don\u2019t do. Such as having too many expectations, getting too attached, or even moving too quickly. Being in any type of relationship is hard. They all take lots of hard work, and some of that can be eliminated by not doing certain things. Diving into a fresh relationship with too many expectations or any expectations at all can be extremely detrimental. An expectation is a \u201cstrong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future\u201d, as said on google. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

In my opinion, I see expectations as hopes, dreams, desires, or even a want. I see expectations as a goal in life. Expectations always appear to me as little obsessions in a person that I hope get bigger and bigger over time so that other people see it as well. Expectations can also be\u00a0the downfall of something very special. It puts stress and pressure on many aspects of any sort of relationship. Instead of letting it flow and allow things to happen naturally you may set a time limit or expect it to happen by a certain date or in a certain way purposely or unknowingly. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Either way, when it does finally happen and it doesn’t go exactly the way you planned, it may disappoint you or even make you not want to be part of the relationship anymore. Which isn\u2019t good because then you will start to pick up bad habits such as when things don\u2019t go your way, you give up. Too many expectations can hurt your self-esteem, reinforce unproductive gender roles, and can cause you to think your partner is a failure or even become ashamed of them. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

A way to combat too many expectations is to value appreciating what you have in the relationship instead of expecting more from it. Other ways are to never threaten the relationship as well as making sure not to compare your relationship to others. That helps combat questioning your relationship and expecting things from it and your partner. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I know I\u2019ve talked a lot about the negatives of having expectations but that is only if you have way too many. If you have reasonable expectations and a reasonable amount of them then expectations are good to have. Expectations give you a base or a guideline. It doesn\u2019t allow you to accept less than what you\u2019re asking for, because you know what you deserve. A small number of expectations also don\u2019t allow you to accept any form of emotional or physical abuse. Having expectations for how someone should treat you in a relationship is simply a humane thing to have. It separates what you will or will not tolerate. Expectations also show your commitment to one another. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If you have no expectations then you care nothing about your partner, it\u2019s that simple. No expectations can also be a sign of unconditional love. It shows that your partner loves you for what, and who you are no matter what you do and how you act, that\u2019s why they expect nothing, because they will love you regardless.\u00a0I know I\u2019m going back and forth here but there are many positives and negatives to having expectations, and I wanted to express them in way that shows all aspects of them.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

In relationships there are just some things that you don\u2019t do. Such as having too many expectations, getting too attached, or even moving too quickly. Being in any type of relationship is hard. They all take lots of hard work, and some of that can be eliminated by not doing certain things. Diving into a … Continue reading “What wrong with expectations?”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":82,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16245"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/82"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16245"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16245\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16246,"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16245\/revisions\/16246"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16245"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16245"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16245"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}