{"id":10354,"date":"2020-11-04T17:25:28","date_gmt":"2020-11-04T23:25:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/?p=10354"},"modified":"2020-11-04T17:27:05","modified_gmt":"2020-11-04T23:27:05","slug":"the-pressure-of-perfection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/2020\/11\/04\/the-pressure-of-perfection\/","title":{"rendered":"The Pressure of Perfection"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\n<blockquote>\n<p>&#8220;I&#8217;m not perfect. Why would I ask you to be?&#8221;\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0 \u00a0\u2015 Mrs. Sibley\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>I often describe myself as a perfectionist, as I always strive for excellence.<\/p>\n<p>However, lately, perfect seems overrated and unobtainable. I mean, I know it is, but it doesn&#8217;t feel worth it to try anymore. &#8220;If it can&#8217;t be perfect, why do it?&#8221; type beat. I&#8217;ve been meeting my goals, but I&#8217;m barely hanging on by a thread. I&#8217;m not proud of any of the work I&#8217;ve created recently, and I feel like a failure, so I ask myself: why do you keep why trying?<\/p>\n<p>Why does anything I write matter if it&#8217;s not the best&#8211; if it&#8217;s not perfect? I&#8217;ve been producing work here lately that I&#8217;m ashamed to put my name on, and I don&#8217;t know how to deal. I try, and I try, but nothing feels good. I&#8217;m in this funk that feels like I&#8217;m drowning, and I can&#8217;t catch my breath.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The pressure of perfection lives on my shoulders, and it is so heavy, and I can&#8217;t carry it all. But I think acknowledging this has allowed me to let go, to release some of the pressure.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>I used to think being perfect was some sort of flex, and maybe it was, but now, it&#8217;s a hindrance. I keep trying to be perfect, instead of just doing what I love. The lines have blurred, and now I can&#8217;t tell the difference, but I have to keep moving forward, perfect or not.\u00a0<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p>Here are some affirmations that I read often to keep myself motivated:<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone  wp-image-10426\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/57bfc2d1a7ae6f7f600fde0862473d5b-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"237\" height=\"237\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/57bfc2d1a7ae6f7f600fde0862473d5b-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/57bfc2d1a7ae6f7f600fde0862473d5b-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/57bfc2d1a7ae6f7f600fde0862473d5b.jpg 650w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 237px) 85vw, 237px\" \/><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone  wp-image-10427\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/657be84d172a4eb7672253f7ca033a12-300x293.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"241\" height=\"235\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/657be84d172a4eb7672253f7ca033a12-300x293.jpg 300w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/657be84d172a4eb7672253f7ca033a12.jpg 735w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 241px) 85vw, 241px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-10430\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Screenshot_20201104-150618_Instagram-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Screenshot_20201104-150618_Instagram-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Screenshot_20201104-150618_Instagram-1024x1022.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Screenshot_20201104-150618_Instagram-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Screenshot_20201104-150618_Instagram-768x767.jpg 768w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Screenshot_20201104-150618_Instagram.jpg 1073w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 85vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-10425\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/1bae3bbb11e2c41c6f91965756058ee7-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/1bae3bbb11e2c41c6f91965756058ee7-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/1bae3bbb11e2c41c6f91965756058ee7-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/1bae3bbb11e2c41c6f91965756058ee7.jpg 736w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 85vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-10428\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/b7f89d28b94e804310c6f4acc379e64a-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/b7f89d28b94e804310c6f4acc379e64a-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/b7f89d28b94e804310c6f4acc379e64a-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/b7f89d28b94e804310c6f4acc379e64a.jpg 400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 85vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-10431\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/20201104_150702-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/20201104_150702-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/20201104_150702-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/20201104_150702-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/20201104_150702-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/20201104_150702.jpg 1068w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 85vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;I&#8217;m not perfect. Why would I ask you to be?&#8221;\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0\u2015 Mrs. Sibley\u00a0 I often describe myself as a perfectionist, as I always strive for excellence. However, lately, perfect seems overrated and unobtainable. I mean, I know it &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/2020\/11\/04\/the-pressure-of-perfection\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;The Pressure of Perfection&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":50,"featured_media":10440,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10354"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/50"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10354"}],"version-history":[{"count":16,"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10354\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10448,"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10354\/revisions\/10448"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10440"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10354"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10354"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.msabrookhaven.org\/literary\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10354"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}